Creating A Successful Long Distance Relationship starts with trust, patients, and understanding. Distance often throws a monkey wrench into a relationship. That is why many people are wary of committing to any long distance relationship (LDR). However, most couples tend to forget that relationship does not depend on the physical location only. I have been in a long distance relationship for the last three years and I must say it has been an awesome journey!
My first struggle was getting use to the reality of having my partner so far away. But as time passed I have discovered a LDR can bloom in the space between the couple.
Instead of dwelling on what can go wrong I always focus on all the awesome stuff the two of us are discovering together.
If you are trying to make your long distance relationship work, check out the following LDR Tips.
A sexual relationship at the wrong point of time can have a negative bearing on a relationship. (This is sure going to get a lot of flack from some readers, but sorry people, this is the truth!) Intimacy can change the dynamics of a relationship. Once the threshold is crossed the pressure of intimacy could make it harder to work things out as they move very quickly in other areas.
More often than not, it could lead to a break up. However, when a couple is far away, the pressure of physical contact is reduced. The space provides for the relationship to progress slowly and as a result forcing the couple to learn each other better.
In a long distance relationship, proper communication is important. In order to keep things moving forward, use a different line of communication such as face time, Skype, messenger, etc.
Next, keep in mind, it is unwise to be overly clingy and possessive. You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship alive. Many couples feel communicating more will compensate for the distance.
This is further from the truth! because sooner or later someone will get tired of the over the top communication.
Remember: Less is more. It is not about spamming — you are only going to exhaust yourselves. It’s really about teasing at the right moments and tugging at the right spots.
In a LDR, friendship is the foundation on which it is built. No matter where your partner is located, a bond inevitably forms with an underlying emotional connection.
A LDR, forces the couple to become friends first and lovers later, so, both develop proper understanding. If you want your relationship to work no matter where you are, your partner should be your friend, apart from being your lover.
Have faith in your relationship no matter where you are. If you believe that your relationship is fragile just because of distance, then perhaps a LDR is not for you.
You must learn to live in the moment, and embrace the romance, and the rest will work out it self out. Stay away from rumors and unlikely stories about your partner, avoid suspicion, and the seed of romance will blossom into a thing of beauty.
The doubt is real! Uncertainty is a stage that will come up time and time again in any LDR. It is natural to be uncertain; nobody can predict the future.
You’ll wonder whether or not the relationship is worth holding onto and if you should just end things and move on; it would definitely make life easier.
Sure negative thoughts and fights are bound to happen and they will raise important questions about your relationship.
The trick is to fight the core of the problem right away and make sure that it does not cause other issues to arise. If you and your partner just cannot work it out, then you might want to consider taking a break or spending some time alone to reflect on yourself and your own life.
Although these points may sound like a LDR can be easy– far from it! Not everyone has the energy and commitment to carry out a long distance relationship.
Many people are more comfortable with their partner physically present. However, if you are fully prepared to creating a successful LDR , then all the points given above will surely be of help.
Sometimes, distance can push a relationship to success. 🙂
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